If you’ve been following our blog you know we’ve just recently pulled our son Joey from 5th grade. It’s been a whirlwind of changes for all of us. Definitely not planned or anticipated, and stressful! Initially, with my head spinning I ordered curriculums, how-to homeschool books and signed him up for music lessons.
Joey struggled to pay attention in his class. His teacher described him as “checked out.” At home trying to switch into a home based version of public school, I don’t know why it surprised me to find him still “checked out.” We decided on a visit with his pediatrician to ask about a possible ADHD diagnosis. He does have a mild form of ADHD.
Lots of decisions, how do we proceed? Start him on Adderal and hope he can get back to the books, or do we give this adjustment more time? How far behind are we going to get? Am I being a bad parent by letting time pass? Being a parent is filled with so many decisions where I find my hands in the air, I don’t know what the right answer is.
Ive joined several homeschooling groups on Facebook and read many similar blogs from WordPress. The word that everyone has repeated to me, “deschooling.” I’ve heard of it, but I didn’t know how to do it, how long it was going to take or what it really meant.
Deschooling is the process of letting go and giving your child’s mind time to shift into a different way of learning, and to become a curious thinker once again. It’s a deschooling time for parents as well. The rule of thumb is to give your child a month for every year spent in public school to deschool. That would be 5 months for us!
Right now Joey thinks not just school sucks but learning in general(his words). He has a very negative association with learning all stemming from his experiences at school. It is going to be a slow process.
This is the direction we’ve chosen. We are officially “signed up” for deschooling as of this week. We have decided on a small dose of Adderal to see if it helps him concentrate. So far so good. It is still hard for Ryan and I to not push a bunch of workbooks in front of him, but I guess we are deschooling too.
So far this week he has asked to write his own blog and posted two, even gaining a follower(not his mom). This is from a kid that hates writing! However small, this seems like progress. We’ll see where this journey takes us.
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