ADHD

Deschooling

If you’ve been following our blog you know we’ve just recently pulled our son Joey from 5th grade. It’s been a whirlwind of changes for all of us. Definitely not planned or anticipated, and stressful! Initially, with my head spinning I ordered curriculums, how-to homeschool books and signed him up for music lessons.

Joey struggled to pay attention in his class. His teacher described him as “checked out.” At home trying to switch into a home based version of public school, I don’t know why it surprised me to find him still “checked out.” We decided on a visit with his pediatrician to ask about a possible ADHD diagnosis. He does have a mild form of ADHD.

Lots of decisions, how do we proceed? Start him on Adderal and hope he can get back to the books, or do we give this adjustment more time? How far behind are we going to get? Am I being a bad parent by letting time pass? Being a parent is filled with so many decisions where I find my hands in the air, I don’t know what the right answer is.

Ive joined several homeschooling groups on Facebook and read many similar blogs from WordPress. The word that everyone has repeated to me, “deschooling.” I’ve heard of it, but I didn’t know how to do it, how long it was going to take or what it really meant.

Deschooling is the process of letting go and giving your child’s mind time to shift into a different way of learning, and to become a curious thinker once again. It’s a deschooling time for parents as well. The rule of thumb is to give your child a month for every year spent in public school to deschool. That would be 5 months for us!

Right now Joey thinks not just school sucks but learning in general(his words). He has a very negative association with learning all stemming from his experiences at school. It is going to be a slow process.

This is the direction we’ve chosen. We are officially “signed up” for deschooling as of this week. We have decided on a small dose of Adderal to see if it helps him concentrate. So far so good. It is still hard for Ryan and I to not push a bunch of workbooks in front of him, but I guess we are deschooling too.

So far this week he has asked to write his own blog and posted two, even gaining a follower(not his mom). This is from a kid that hates writing! However small, this seems like progress. We’ll see where this journey takes us.

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  1. Good job, Mama! I also just recently pulled my 5th grader out of public school. (I’m January) It’s been a struggle to find the “right” thing for him but I am slowly realizing that maybe I had it all wrong all along. 😬 I’ve been making a conscious decision to stop trying to control him with curriculum and to let him figure out how to be happy and to want to learn. My son is also add. This is going to be an interesting journey. 😂 I look forward to reading more about your experiences!

    • Wow! We have a lot in common there..I’d love to see where it takes us both. Feel free to reach out to us.. and share anything you discover that works, we are winging it over here! 👍🏻❤️

      • I’m a skilled winger. Hahaha! I have been totally stumbling through the last 2 months. I’ve had great days and other days where I’m like….why?! Why did I do this?! 😂😉

        I know why and I am so grateful I did, but man does that kid push my buttons sometimes. I’m still trying to figure out what works best for us. I think we will get there. (I hope so anyways) 🤨

        I’m glad I found your blog. ❤️

  2. When I first pulled my son out of school, deschooling saved us. He had really come to hate school and forced learning, and I couldn’t blame him because the way I look at it, learning should be fun, not stressful.

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